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SerenDestiny #32: Where Do You Go – What Do You Do – To Replenish?

“Other people have analysis. I have Utah.” – Robert Redford

Mariah Burton Nelson was the center for the Stanford University basketball team in the 80’s and held the scoring record for most points scored for many years. An expert on women in sports, she often gets called by the media to comment on stories involving female athletes, whether that’s a tennis player’s temper tantrum or Danica Patrick competing at Indianapolis Motor Speedway.

Mariah was at her beach house in Bethany Beach, DE one summer and received a phone call on her cell phone.

She glanced at the phone, saw the 212 area code and picked up the phone, thinking it might be her brother who lives in New York. A woman introduced herself as being a producer for The Today Show and asked Mariah to come to NYC later that week to appear on a show about Title IX.

Mariah said, “I appreciate the invitation, but I’m on vacation.”

There was a pause on the other end of the line.

The woman repeated herself and then added, “This is The Today Show” as if Mariah must not have understood who was calling because most people jump at the chance to be on this national show.

Mariah repeated herself. “Yes, I know it’s The Today Show . . . and I’m on vacation.”

There’s a women who knows who she is. And there’s a woman who knows the value of having a peaceful place of her own where she can temporarily retire from the world, unwind and take a deep breath.

Where do you go to get away from it all so you can come back refreshed and ready to go?

One of the many things I’ve learned in my study of SerenDestineers is that they understand the value of staying centered. And to stay centered means taking a break from our rush-rush life so we can recharge our batteries.

Years ago I had the privilege of squiring travel industry pioneer Arthur Frommer (he created the Europe on $5 a Day series) around DC while he gave TV interviews prior to him speaking for an Open University program. The reporters asked the same question, “Mr. Frommer, you’ve seen the 7 Wonders of the World. You’ve traveled to some of the most beautiful cities, museums and parks on our planet. What is your favorite place to go?”

At this, Arthur Frommer would smile serenely and say, “My backyard.”

He would then clarify, “The purpose of a vacation is to provide . . . contrast.” If you’re in a sedentary, paper-pusher job; you may crave adventure. If you live and work in a city; you may want to get out in the country and revel in nature. I travel all the time; so my ideal vacation is relaxing in my backyard.”

Makes sense, doesn’t it? What’s this mean for you and your SerenDestiny?

Energy is a prerequisite for initiating the activities that will set your SerenDestiny in motion.

As Gloria Steinem pointed out, “Where do you go to replenish yourself? This is not a luxury, it’s a necessity if we don’t want our energy to run dry. Each of us needs a free place, a little psychic territory. Do you have yours?”

The free place that gives you energy is your “Utah.” And, as Frommer so wisely understood, your Utah is often the opposite of your “always.”

What do you always do on weekends? This weekend, do the opposite. If you go, go, go . . .then try doing nothing this weekend.

As Academy-award winning actor Anthony Hopkins said, “There comes a time when you just have to sit back a bit and come home to yourself and not rush around.”

This weekend . . . give yourself the gift of “contrast” and come home to yourself. It may be just what you need to replenish your energy so you can set your SerenDestiny in motion next week.


SerenDestiny #18: Do the Opposite of Your Always

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“Other people have analysis. I have Utah.” – Robert Redford Mariah Burton Nelson, an expert on women in sports and leadership and author of We Are All Athletes, often gets called by the media to comment on news stories involving … Continue reading