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SerenDestiny #60: Are You Going It Alone? Align with Peers Who Have Your Back and Your Front

“Individuality is fine. As long as we do it together.” – Frank Burns, M*A*S*H

A recurring theme of our recent strategic retreats was that many of us entrepreneurs work in isolation.

We all love being our own boss; it’s a pleasure and a privilege; and it can also be daunting when we’re the one supplying all the energy, focus and drive.

I discovered (the hard way) that one of the few downsides of running your own business is going it alone.

Many of you know I in Hawaii for 17 years. I loved living in Paradise, and didn’t really realize how professionally isolating it was until I moved to the Mainland – the Wash DC area.

A colleague Rebecca Morgan, (co-founder of SpeakerNetNews.com) and I roomed together at a convention that year. We stayed up late every night debriefing what we’d learned and swapping best-practice tips.

We decided to continue this rewarding collaboration by creating a master-mind group and inviting 5 carefully selected peers to join us in monthly phone calls and twice-a-year in-person meetings.

At our first meeting, we were “going around the table” updating each other on our priority projects and pinpointing where and how we could use help.

When it was my turn, I said, “I’m thoroughly enjoying this and I’m glad to be part of it. I just can’t think of anything I need help with, so I’ll donate my time back to the group.”

It was quiet for a moment. Then Rebecca (bless her heart) said, “Well, what are you working on right now?”

“I’m re-doing my website.”

“We can help you with that, “Rebecca said confidently.

And she was right. A half hour later, my website was infinitely better because of the group’s suggestions.

My subsequent epiphany was, “It had been so long since I had asked for help, I had forgotten how.”

Since there hadn’t been any other professional speakers on Maui at that time, I didn’t have anyone to “talk shop” with.

The few times I did share my business activities with acquaintances, they simply didn’t have the industry knowledge to be able to give informed advice.

So, I stopped asking. I ended up doing everything myself. And that worked pretty well. As the saying goes, it was what it was.

But I had an epiphany while discussing an online info-product I was developing with my master-mind group.

Val asked, “Why are you only offering one pricing option? Why not bundle your CD’s together and offer three different packages so people can buy at their own comfort level?”

Uh, duh. Why wasn’t I doing that? Because it had never occurred to me.

That’s just one of the many advantages gained from having a variety of people bring their combined expertise to the table (so to speak) – people who have your back … and your front.

As entrepreneurs, we often get so close to our work; we can’t see it clearly anymore.

That’s one of the many advantages of being part of a strategic master-mind.

Peers can often pinpoint our blind-spots and tell exactly what we need to do differently to break through an impasse.

Group brainstorming not only saves us a lot of trial-and-terror learning; it’s the quickest way to dramatically improve and expedite results.

Lily Tomlin said, “Remember, we’re all in this … alone.”

Are you trying to get your bandwagon out of your garage … all on your own?

Maybe you don’t know anyone who has experience with what you’re pursuing.

Or, you live in an isolated area and you’re working solo because there doesn’t seem to be any alternative.

Or, somewhere along the way you were taught not to “bother” people by asking for their help, so your default is to be self-sufficient rather than seeking support?

If there’s anything I’ve learned after interviewing thousands of SerenDestineers; it’s that strategically aligning with compatible colleagues who have our best interests at heart is a non-negotiable for creating a propserous business and a rewarding life where the light’s on in our eyes.

The good news is, we don’t have struggle to figure everything out on our own. We can go it alone … together.

A wonderful example of a group that does an excellent job of providing highly interactive mastermind groups for its membera is EO – Entrepreneurs Organization. http://www.eonetwork.org/Pages/welcome.aspx

EO members love having access to best practices and best practicers at their chapter meetings, national conferences and global events – but they all agree that participating in their EO mastermindmind groups (FORUMS) is a life-changing, business-enhancing, rising-tide-raising-all-boats experience.

Are you tired of going it alone?

If so, check out EO and explore how you can reach out and align with professional peers who have your back and front.

SerenDestiny #27: What a Wonderful Life . . . What Are You Waiting For?

I’m writing this from Geneva, where I have the good fortune to be thanks to EO (Entrepreneurs Organization) which has arranged for me to travel through Europe to speak to their chapters.

Today’s post though is about the magical events that unfolded today . . . which proved in the most delightful way that we can have a wonderful day anytime we want if we will but listen to the whispering of the higher self.

I set out this sunny morning to explore Geneva’s waterfront on foot. A splendid view met me with the Peace Fountain jetting 200 feet into the air and the Swiss Alps rising majestically up – up – up in the background.

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Peace Fountain jetting

After exploring Old Town Geneva with its luxury international shops, I started walking back to my hotel. As I strolled by a beautifully terraced restaurant, I heard the tickling of ivories from inside and was drawn like a moth to musical flame.

The modernistic red and black bar inside was empty except for the pianist playing to no one but himself and an unappreciative bartender.

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Le Richemond Le Bar

The matre’d escorted me to a seat under a large, sun-filled window and handed me an elegant, leather-bound menu with a flourish.

I fully intended to have that cup of coffee . . until I perused the menu and saw this . . . Vanilla-infused vodka shaken with Khalua, espresso, Baileys and Chantilly Cream.

Suffice it to say, I went with the Capuccino Martini.

I pulled out my trusty pen and moleskin journal (thanks to my son, Andrew, who gifted me with it) and started musing, “There were a dozen ways home. Why did I intuitively choose not to go down those other streets? Why did this one call me?”

I’m not sure . .. all I know is that this was the street bathed in light. This was the street that felt right.

And now that I’m here, the SerenDestiny is unfolding.

I picked up a brochure on my table and discovered I had landed in the famous Le Richemond – one of the leading hotels in the world and home of the famous Le Jardin restaurant.

This is also the home of a monthly series of “Art of Writing” workshops on “Journal Your Life” in honor of Colette – yes, the Colette who said, “I’ve had a wonderful life. I only wish I’d realized it sooner” who penned her book The Blue Lantern in this very hotel in 1946.

After jotting my grateful thoughts while they were still hot, I quietly applauded as the pianist wrapped up a song. He turned and give me a warm smile. I asked, “Do you know Claire ‘d Lune?”

“Debussy?” he asked.


He shook his head ruefully. He seemed to think about what might be close to that lyrical melody, then settled his fingers on the keys and out came this perfect substitute . . . Blackbird by The Beatles

Blackbird singing in the dead of night
Take these broken wings and learn to fly
All your life
You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Blackbird singing in the dead of night
Take these sunken eyes and learn to see
All your life
You were only waiting for this moment to be free

Blackbird fly, blackbird fly
Into the light of the dark black night
Blackbird fly, blackbird fly
Into the light of the dark black night

Blackbird singing in the dead of night
Take these broken wings and learn to fly
All your life
You were only waiting for this moment to arise

So . . . I set out this morning without knowing where I was going or what I was going to experience. And by listening to what organically drew me, I’ve had a extraordinary day. A day where my spirit has flown and my eyes have seen.

As the lyrics of Blackbird suggest, many of us are waiting for moments to arise, to fly, to be free.

We don’t have to wait. Those wonderful moments are all around us . . . if we’ll just see them and appreciate them . . . now.