“Trust your hunches. They’re usually based on facts filed away just below the conscious level.” – Dr. Joyce Brothers
Have you ever had an inkling to walk down this street, register for that event, reach out to this person; and it resulted in connecting you with someone or something that moved your life forward – for good?
Think about it. What are hunches? Where do they come from?
Some people call hunches “intuition.” Others call them a “gut instinct or gut feelings.” Creative people may call them their “muse.” Religious people sometimes call them divine intervention or “God Winks.” Some call them “premonition” or a “sixth sense.”
I’ve learned many things about hunches while interviewing people for my upcoming SerenDestiny book including:
a. Whatever you call hunches, they’re almost always right.
b. Hunches happen for a reason. A good reason.
c. Acting on hunches often results in a “stroke of luck,” good fortune, a blessing, a fortuitous twist of fate, what some people call “kismet.”
People from around the world have told me dramatic stories of how honoring a hunch set their SerenDestiny in motion.
The problem is, many of us don’t value hunches. We get an internal nudge to do this, go there, but we dismiss it with “I don’t feel like it. I don’t have time. That’s crazy. I’ll do it later.” And later is too late.
I remember a fascinating TV interview of Gavin de Becker, author of The Gift of Fear and a high-profile security consultant.
He said, “I ask people who have been assaulted if there were any warning signs beforehand. Many tell me they couldn’t put their finger on it, but they knew something was . . . wrong. The hairs on the backs of their arms stood up; their heart started pounding; something.
‘When I ask them, ‘Why didn’t you run or call for help?’ they often say they looked around and couldn’t see anything suspicious. Since they couldn’t see any evidence to justify their alarm, they dismissed it. They shrugged off their fears instead of realizing their body went on alert for a reason and they should take steps to protect themselves.”
What’s the point?
Our body gives us signs when it senses dissonance. Our instincts sense when something’s about to go wrong.
I’ve come to believe our body also give us signs when it senses resonance Our instincts sense when something’s about to go right.
I call those warning signs “hostile hunches.”
I call those resonant signs “harmonic hunches.”
Just as our instincts alert us to a coalescing of hostile circumstances, they also alert us to a coalescing of harmonic circumstances.
Survival hunches alerting us to dangerous circumstances prepare us for fight or flight.
Serendestiny hunches alerting us to desirable circumstances prepare us for a favorable future.
Acting on “hostile” hunches can keep us safe.
Acting on “harmonic” hunches can jump-start our fate.
One of the goals of this SerenDestiny blog and my upcoming book are to convince you of the miracles that await you if you honor your hostile and harmonic hunches.
Hostile hunches can alert you to toxic people and situations that will pull you off path.
Harmonic hunches alert you to compatible individuals and situations that can become stepping stones to a life where the light’s on in your eyes.
What’s non-negotiable is that you don’t dismiss hunches as “silly” or “trivial.”
I’ll say it again. Whatever hunches are; they’re rarely wrong.
If your gut is screaming at you to get away from a certain person or situation – even if there’s no “evidence” for your distrust or distaste – accept that it’s in your best interests to head the other direction. Toxic individuals and situations block your SerenDestiny because conflict consumes energy.
If a certain person or situation strikes a chord with you, if they’ve got a good “vibe,” seek them out. Even if you can’t put your finger on it, but an opportunity “feels right,” pursue that compatible connection in the moment.
One of the most important things I’ve learned in my years of researching SerenDestiny is the importance of capitalizing on a confluence of fortuitous factors. This “conFLOWence” is dynamic, it’s fleeting. For whatever reason, a providential combination of events has crystallized and come together NOW.
If you don’t capitalize on it immediately, that particular set of circumstances shifts and that window of opportunity . . . closes, perhaps forever.
Who knows if those agianst-all-odds fortuitous factors will re-align again?
I’m not trying to be melodramatic. It’s just that, as Graham Greene said, “There is a moment in every child’s life when the door opens and lets the future in.”
There are moments in everyone’s life when a door opens and lets their future in.
It’s up to us to be alert to those moments and take advantage of them. By definition, they only exist for a brief time.
From now on, understand that hunches are SerenDestiny Stepping Stones appearing before you are gifts from the universe. They are pointing out a harmonic path that will align you with like-minded individuals and opportunities. All you have to do is step forward in faith.
This isn’t woo-woo. Thousands of individuals have vouched for the “you wouldn’t believe it if it weren’t true” benefits they’ve reaped as a result of honoring their intuitive nudges.
Next time you get a hunch, even if you’re tired or busy; even if you don’t know where it’s going; follow its lead. Something or someone delightful awaits you.