SerenDestiny #14: Are You Listening to The Voice of Confidence or the Voice of Fear?

There are always two voices sounding in our ears – the voice of fear and the voice of confidence. One is the clamor of the senses, the other is the whispering of the higher self.” – Charles Newcomb

I love Newcomb’s quote because it captures the emotions we experience when we’re making decisions at Crucial Crossroads.

We can give in to the clamor of the senses, or we can listen instead to the whispering of our higher self and take a SerenDestiny Step of Faith and move our life forward – for good.

The importance of this was dramatically demonstrated in an outing I took with my friend Leslie years ago on New Year’s Day.

I was still living in Hawaii at the time. The winter surf was booming so we ventured out to the North Shore of Oahu to tackle the waves at Hawaii’s famous Waimea Bay.

Leslie and I were both strong swimmers. I had competed through high school and coached while in college and Leslie was a “fish” who was completely comfortable in the water. Plus, we were only going to the inner surfline, not out by the jetty where the really big waves were.

But still . . .

Leslie and I stood on the beach with our boogie boards, wondering, “Should we go in . . . shouldn’t we go in?”

If we went in, we could get tumbled around and turned inside out, upside down and deposited on the beach.

On the other hand, we could have an incredibly exhilarating experience, the thrill of a lifetime.

Twenty minutes later, we were still standing on the beach, wondering, “Should we . . . . shouldn’t we . . . should we . . . . shouldn’t we?”

We finally looked at each other simultaneously and said, “Let’s go in. We’ll never know standing out here.”

I can remember as if it were yesterday working our way out past that surf line and gazing out towards the horizon with a mixture of awe and excitement.

An impressive set rolled toward us and we looked at each other in wide-eyed wonder going, “Whooaaa.” We were filled with a combination of excitement and anxiety as we considered whether we should go for it. We knew that once we committed, we couldn’t turn back. You can’t tell an 8 foot wave, “Sorry, I changed my mind.”

We decided to go for it. We kicked as hard as we could to match the speed of the wave and caught it. The swell lifted us up and shot us forward. Whoosh.

I remember sliding down the face of that wave, cutting back and forth as we rode it all the way in until we scraped our bellies on the beach.

We looked at each other, grinning from ear to ear, nodded in agreement and went back out for another shot of adrenaline. It was one of the most intense experiences of my life. I will always be glad we listened to the voice of confidence instead of the voice of fear.

Are you at a Crucial Crossroads? What do you want to try? Do you want to start your own business, write a book, ask someone out, go for your pilot’s license, go back to college, try salsa dancing, train for a 10K?

Are you standing on the beach going, “Should I . . .shouldn’t I . . . should I . . . shouldn’t I?’

You’ll never know standing on the beach.

Go in.

Soren Kierkegaard said, “We always experience anxiety whenever we confront the potential of our own development.”

Do what makes you anxious; don’t do what makes you depressed.

I have not met one SerenDestineer who regretted listening to the voice of confidence instead of the voice of fear. No one has regretted going for their dream – even if it didn’t turn out the way they anticipated.

When we reach out for what puts the light on in our eyes, we feel an inner sense of rightness, “This is how I’m supposed to feel.”

When we retreat, withdraw and give in to fear, the lights goes out. We feel safe, but sorry.

When we believe in our self and bet on our self, things just keep getting better and better.

Sometime this week you’ll come to a Crucial Crossroad. Which voice are you going to listen to?


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